How many times do we continuously, whether conscious or subconscious, compare ourselves to others? It is so human to do especially in this competitive world we live in today. The sad part is when our self esteem is affected by this. Being a woman I can so relate to this!!! Peter is always getting onto me about comparing myself to someone else when I see their figure, smile, and the list goes on. Once again I am reminded that God has made each of us the way we are for a reason and we need to be happy with ourselves. That doesn’t mean not to do the best you can to improve but it does mean don’t compare yourself to someone else.
Now since we’ve touched comparing on the outside and how that can affect your self esteem let’s bring it a little deeper, shall we? How about how we think of whether we are successful or not? Once again, another comparison. Usually people will consider themselves successful by the amount of money and/or assets they have. Even in that sense how do you compare your success? For example, do you compare where you are this year compared to last year, last month, last week, etc.? We need to be careful with how we compare our success but especially by what standards as well. Compare yourself to Will Smith and his success – yeah, well – you see where I’m going with that. As long as you know at the end of the day you have done your best that is success no matter what ‘category’ you think you’re in.
As always there are layers so now we’ll touch real deep ~ thrashing deep. How many people are glorifying themselves as Christians by comparing themselves to others and talking about how they aren’t “stand-up” Christians? There are many that proclaim to be a Christian because they say they believe in God and know the Scriptures. OK, my turn to compare. Satan believes in God AND knows the Scriptures so now, compare yourself to that thought and what makes you stand out differently? Oh, I get it, you go to church. My friends, going to church doesn’t make you a Christian or open the doors to Heaven. Does it help? Of course! It always helps to surround yourself with like-minded people. Also, we are instructed to be around other Christians worshipping. Just always remember though, we are instructed NOT to judge others and where they stand.
You want a real comparison? Compare yourself as a Christian to Jesus. Are you forgiving? Do you love others unconditionally? That list definitely goes on. Being more Christ-like is a goal but also unattainable for we are human and have many flaws. For improvements we compare ourselves to Him but never get discouraged when you do. You can also compare where you are now in your Spiritual walk to where you used to be for a closer look at yourself. Just make sure you’re honest when you do because He already knows the truth.
In closing, I urge you to only compare yourself to you, where you were and who you were to now. Don’t make the constant mistake of comparing yourselves to those of the world or even those you consider Christians. Focus on you for you are the one who will answer to Jesus about your life. One last thought ~ if you truly want to feel and be successful, make a difference in another’s life. Then you have succeeded.
This is DeVaughn ~ bringing it home.
Every day we have to watch out for what I call “danger zones.” It is common knowledge that our thoughts become actions and the words we speak can damage the soul of another. A computer is very much like our mind – garbage in, garbage out. Immediately when we think something that is along the lines of anger, jealousy, greed, etc. we need to catch ourselves and make a conscious effort to change that thought. The enemy is busy trying to cause damage in the homes in today’s world so remember it is in your mind that he places all kind of thoughts, just like he did Eve in the Garden of Eden.
Not just our thoughts though, we have to remember that our value and self worth is not defined the same as a Christian as it is out in the world. It is not our checkbook, our figure, the car we drive that truly defines us. What defines us is that we are God’s children. Don’t let the world tell you that you aren’t good enough, just remember ~ Jesus died on the cross because He thought you were special. That’s where your true worth lies.
Last thought of the day ~ when you think someone else’s business is your business erase that thought too!!! It isn’t our place to judge others and whether someone is saved or not. If someone doesn’t believe exactly like you or act the way you think they should, that’s Jesus’ business, not yours. Keep it to yourself and if it really bothers you – PRAY ABOUT IT!! Don’t Facebook it! Let Jesus take care of His business, He sure doesn’t need our help. Now, I’m not saying we shouldn’t be concerned with others and speak to them personally if we have prayed about it and think we should. What I am saying is that we shouldn’t be posting all of this on Facebook, Twitter or anywhere else. That in itself is wrong. Jesus did tell us to pull the log out of our own eye first. All in all the point I am trying to make is we need to make sure our words and actions are being a witness and not a warning to others..
This is DeVaughn ~ bringing it home.